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5-star hotel chosen as host of Hong Kong sex and intimacy fair – ‘it destigmatises it’, co-organiser of Lust event says


Conversations about sex and intimacy can leave some people with feelings of guilt and shame.

“Lust: A sexy September fair to dive into self love, intimacy & sexuality,” to be held in Hong Kong on September 9, hopes to change that.

Its talks and workshops will be held in the Upper House in Admiralty. The luxury five-star hotel environment will hopefully make people feel more at ease with discussions about sex, says Hongkonger Christina Ko, the event’s co-organiser.

“We wanted to create a safe space for people to learn about sex toys and aphrodisiacs, about how to connect with your partner, and even how to love yourself emotionally and physically, which we see as the greatest component in intimacy,” says Ko.

“I will be there writing love poems or personalised affirmations to benefit Rainlily, a sexual violence crisis centre,” says Lust co-organiser Christina Ko. Photo: courtesy of Christine Ko

“If people see a high-end hotel that hosts family brunches and corporate events getting involved in this topic, it destigmatises it. Folks who might not walk into a sex shop should feel OK walking into a suite at The Upper House,” she says.

The fair will feature intimate toys from Lelo, BDSM accessories from Sally Coco – BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism – erotic coffee-table books from Taschen, and other items that help heighten lovemaking, such as caviar (a reported aphrodisiac), crystals and candles.

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It also offers experiences that are both “fun and unusual”, Ko says. These include having a boudoir photo shoot with Aya Kaneko, “who’s great at making women feel and look good”.

Fellow co-organiser Michelle Lai will have mini hypnotherapy sessions “to tackle issues of self-love and self-esteem”.

Ko will write love poems or personalised affirmations in return for donations to benefit Rainlily, a sexual violence crisis centre.

Oracle-card readings, private sound healing for couples, and coaching services with a sex therapist are also available for booking.

Erotic coffee-table books from Taschen will be on sale at “Lust: A sexy September fair to dive into self love, intimacy & sexuality”, at The Upper House in Hong Kong. Photo courtesy of Christine Ko

The fair’s centrepiece is its free-to-join workshop talks which, Ko says, are “really pushing the envelope”.

“There’s so much we wanted to explore, from talking to teens about sex, to issues of gender identity, to personal experience sharing. But we finally made it quite narrowly focused on intimacy and pleasure, so there will be a burlesque movement workshop, one on yoni and lingam massage, and a talk on female arousal.”

Intimacy coach Viv Kan will help couples better connect with the massage talk on yoni and lingam – Sanskrit words for the female and male genitals that symbolise the life force of the universe.

“When I started hosting my massage talks, I initially made it for women. Then they’d say, ‘men need to know this too. I want to record you to show it to my husband or boyfriend!’,” says Kan.

Intimacy coach Viv Kan will help connect couples with a talk on yoni and lingam massage. Photo courtesy of Christine Ko

“When men started joining the talks, everyone realised how rare it is for all genders to come together and feel safe talking about intimacy, openly. It’s incredible to witness.”

September is an apt time for the Lust fair: it is also sexual health month, a good time to assess one’s level of sexual health and clear up any knowledge gaps – both physical and emotional.

The World Health Organization defines sexual health as a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity.

Sexual health, it says, requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence.

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Ko says the September 9 Lust event is part of a series on opening up conversations around the “seven deadly sins” – pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, wrath, and sloth.

“We wanted Lust to be an extravaganza that unites people from all walks of life that may not be as open to talking about sex and sexuality.”

Future events, Ko says, will be shaped around exploring ideas and stereotypes about other “deadly sins” such as sloth and greed.

“Lust: A sexy September fair to dive into self love, intimacy & sexuality,” 4805, Andre Fu Suite, The Upper House, Pacific Place, 88 Queensway, Admiralty. September 9, 11am-7pm.

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